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S4 Episode 12: SPECIAL Open Table - Changing Hats with Consent in Coaching

While some professional bodies like ICF have a very pure definition of coaching, it's common for people coming to coaching to be unclear what we offer.  Sometimes the organisation has commissioned you to do a combination of coaching and mentoring. What's ethical? What's partnership? What's useful? 

 

Today Claire is joined by

• Michael Kell who emailed info@3dcoaching.com with an idea to have this conversation
• Gary Crotaz
• Mark Mercer
• Matthew Rayward
• Nathan Whitbread
• Ivan Yong

 

Takeaways

• The tension between coaching and mentoring arises when and how to give advice.
• Having a clear niche can be helpful, but it's important to remain open-minded and authentic.
• Credibility and authority from previous professional experiences can influence coaching.
• Coaches should strive to be in the same conversation as their clients and maintain flow and flexibility in sessions.
• Letting go of imposter syndrome and perfectionism allows for more effective coaching.
• Transitioning between coaching and mentoring should be fluid and natural, using normal language to indicate the shift.
• Good enough for now is a valuable mindset in coaching, allowing for progress and improvement over time. Staying in flow and allowing the client to stay in flow is crucial in coaching conversations
• Mentoring requires the mentor to hold back from giving answers and instead guide the mentee towards finding their own solutions
• Experience can be valuable in mentoring, but it's important to recognize that what worked for the mentor may not work for the mentee
• Team mentoring can provide a unique opportunity for collective learning and the development of diverse skills
• The concept of changing hats in coaching and mentoring may require coaches to expand their range and be comfortable with change

 

Before you go - we’ll never use the podcast to directly sell you anything, but we’re always here for a chat if you are thinking about doing something with us

 

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Keywords

changing hats, coaching, mentoring, advice, niche, freedom, credibility, authority, imposter syndrome, conversation, flow, flexibility, changing hats, flow, coaching, mentoring, experience, team mentoring, collective learning

 

S4 Episode 11: Business Builder for Coaches - The Coaching Business Flywheel with Robbie Swale

Robbie Swale is back at The Coaching Inn today to think about the coaching business flywheel and how important it is to be open to tweak and learn as we grow a coaching business. This episode is full of ideas.

Since their first podcast together, Claire and Robbie realised that they live near each other and now enjoy walking and talking in the Malvern Hills.  If you are or would like to be a member of Claire’s supervision community, you’ll be interested to know that it was inspired by Robbie’s work.

Here is Robbie’s article: 8 Lessons From The First Five Years of My Coaching Business

 

If you want to experience Robbie more, check out The Coach’s Journey where you can download more information about the coaching business flywheel. Or connect on Linked In

 

Keywords

coaching business, flywheel, iteration, experimentation, sustainable model, business development, flexibility, coaching business, flywheel, connect, experience, insight, work with clients, reflection, improvement, coach's journey

 

 

S4 Episode 10: Coaching - Soul or Mastery with Kay Young

Claire saw a post about on Linked In from Kay Young about how Kay disliked the word mastery.  Sharing her dislike of the word, Claire invited Kay to The Coaching Inn to find out more. 

 

Kay shares her experience of dialogue and relationship building in her recent accreditation with APECS. We talk about  the liberation that comes for coaches when they discover a sense of 'enoughness' rather than being  'not good enough yet'. We explore the potential of coaching to affect systemic change or social justice on a person-by-person basis. Instead of mastery, perhaps there is a more humble approach to personal development? In a recent coach training hosted by coach Naomi Ward at The International School Bremen, one of the delegates described the journey to coaching as going from hero to zero.

 

Here is a poem which Kay wrote at the retreat

 

More words…

 

Breathing more deeply as I head up the drive towards The Farm.

Immersing myself in the landscape.

The sense of space, silence, stillness.

Hearing the wind chimes chanting their sacred sound.

Whispering: it’s time to surrender, to let go, to call off the search.

I knew, deep in my bones, I’d never been more ready.

It happened without effort. Effortless, really.

This capacity to see and feel another

Beautiful human soul.

I cried quiet tears

Of joy.

What a gift. This seeing. Really seeing.

Being seen followed. On a BIG screen.

With no place to hide;

And no interest in hiding.

The words that were spoken,

Emerged from my heart and soul

Birthed by the mystery of life itself.

Some weeks on, I notice

A sense of space, silence and stillness lingers on.

Despite life intervening.

I say less. Ask less. Plan less.

And I feel more; and notice more.

I have a sense that surrendering is finding its place;

Deep within my heart, blood and bones.

It’s taken an entire lifetime.

 

Contact Kay Young through Linked In

 

We also talked about Nick Askew’s Soul Biography course and a recent podcast with Mark Goulston.

 

Let’s leave the final word with Parker Palmer: "The human soul doesn't want to be fixed, it simply wants to be seen and heard. The soul is like a wild animal - tough, resilient and shy. When we go crashing through the woods shouting for it to come out so we can help it, the soul will stay in hiding. But if we are willing to sit quietly and wait for a while, the soul may show itself".

 

Keywords

coaching, enoughness, dialogue, human connection, presence, witnessing, not knowing, systemic change, social justice

 

 

S4 Episode 9: Coaching Through Burnout with Michael Levitt

This week, Claire is talking to Michael Levitt.  A former Health Care leader, Michael burned out in 2009.

He talks about lessons learned and some strategies to avoid burnout - useful for anyone encountering burnout themselves or with others.  

Takeaways

• Invest in getting enough sleep and prioritize restful sleep for better physical and mental health.
• Be mindful of what you eat and consider getting a food intolerance test to identify foods that may be causing issues.
• Establish boundaries around work and limit screen time to create a healthier work-life balance.
• Be self-aware and make choices that are in your best interest to prevent burnout.
• Organizations should improve communication and support their employees to prevent burnout.

 

We also talk about the Kevin Hunt podcast about listening to our bodies.

Contact Michael and get a free PDF copy of his book through https://breakfastleadership.teachable.com/p/burnout-proof-your-life/

 

Keywords

burnout, personal journey, sleep, eating well, boundaries, self-awareness, choices, organizations, communication, support

 

 

S4 Episode 8: Brighter Days with Patrick Regan OBE

Today, Claire is in conversation with Patrick Regan about the work he is doing with Brighter Days.  Find out about Patrick’s journey from working with young people in London, through his own experience of being broken, to the work he is doing now around mental health.

 

Patrick designed a wellbeing course, inspired by the Japanese art form Kinsugi, which emphasizes resilience, honesty, forgiveness, and other key life skills. The course grew during the pandemic, with over 10,000 people completing it. Patrick's new book is all about connection, vulnerability, and community power.

 

We talk about other conversations at The Coaching Inn with

• Kay Young (coming soon)
• Kirsty Papworth
• Mark Goulston

And the new story in the UK that has been made into a TV show: Mr Bates V The Post Office

 

Contact Patrick Regan through www.brighterdays.life

Read more in Patrick’s book Brighter Days

 

Keywords

charities, mental health, Kintsugi Hope, anxiety, perfectionism, resilience, connection, well-being

 

 

S4 Episode 7: Personal Development Coaching in Sport with Elizabeth Egan

Behind every athlete is a human.  Today Claire is talking to Elizabeth Egan about her journey into personal development coaching in sport.  Lots to think about this week around working with young people, and the differences between our work and sports coaching.

 

Elizabeth has written an excellent reference guide, with Rob Clift and Carly Jones that you can find on her website https://www.somuchmore.ie/ . It’s a wonderful guide for any kind of coach.

 

Takeaways

• Coaching conversations with athletes should focus on the person, not just the sport.
• Creating space and allowing for vulnerability is essential in coaching.
  Not knowing everything is okay; the coach's role is to facilitate the client's thinking.
• The book 'Personal Development Coaching in Sport' provides a comprehensive guide for practitioners and highlights the relevance of coaching skills in the sports world.

 

Contact Elizabeth through her website or Linked In.

 

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Keywords

coaching, personal development, sport, athletes, vulnerability, space, not knowing, book, practitioners, ethics, psychological approaches, common topics

 

 

S4 Episode 6 The K in STOKeRS with the 3D Coach Mentors

At our last mentors meeting we thought it would be fun to invite you into our conversation from time to time.   Today, Claire Pedrick is in conversation with Ruth Bennett PCC and Zoe Dickinson PCC about what we are learning from technical check ins with coaches - looking at and listening to recordings of their work.   We talk about

• Making the rightsizing questions normal

• The Importance of Asking 'How Will You Know'

• Connecting with what people are saying so we don’t sound like a tennis ball machine

• Adapting tone in different parts of the conversation  

If you like this episode, we’d love you to share it with one other coach. And if you’d like to talk more about any of the things you heard in the podcast, we are on LinkedIn and at the end of info@3dcoaching.com

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Coming Up: 

Next:  Personal Development Coaching in Sport with Elizabeth Egan

Soon: Coaching - Soul or Mastery with Kay Young

Key Words

coaching, Stokers method, coaching conversation, beginning, middle, end, coaching skills, technical check-ins, rightsizing

 

S4 Episode 5: Endings in Coaching with Derek Hill

Today Claire is talking with Derek Hill about the research he has done into endings in coaching. At 3D Coaching, we find that this topic comes up more than almost anything else in our coaching supervision community.

 

We talk about intimacy and belonging, how different people engage in ending the relationship and Derek generously shares some of his learning. His Henley Insight Guide on Goodbyes is available to anyone subscribed to Henley Live.  And it’s also available to download in my supervision community.

 

And if you’re left curious about ending a session well, check out my 1 hour pre-recorded masterclass https://www.3dcoaching.com/shop/masterclass-2-6-facilitating-client-growth/ You can have 10% off if you use the code DEREK.

 

Contact Derek Hill through Linked In or https://www.hi5coaching.com/

 

And contact claire@3dcoaching.com

 

If you like this episode, subscribe or follow The Coaching Inn on your podcast platform to hear new episodes as they drop.  

Coming up: 

Next: The K in STOKeRS with the 3D Coach Mentors

 

Soon: Coaching through Burnout with Michael Levitt

 

Keywords

endings, coaching relationships, power, challenges, emotions, structured approach, intentional, supportive, respectful, Claire Pedrick, Goodbye model

 

 

S4 Episode 4: What’s the Connection between Coaching and Home Education? With Kate Caroe

Sometimes the best learning about coaching comes when we talk about something else and then make our own meaning.  Claire met Kate Caroe at the Out of The Box/ Deep Talk conference in September 2023. Over coffee, Kate shared some of the connections she was making between Home Education and Coaching. So we invited her to come to The Coaching Inn and talk more.

 

Kate has home educated her 6 children and learned about how to facilitate them to do their own learning, how to keep out of the way, to be present, and how to avoid squashing innate curiosity. Kate also discusses the connection between meaning-making and the Out of the Box approach to education. The conversation highlights the significance of relationships, enjoyment, and being present in the learning journey.

 

Contact Kate through www.outoftheboxstories.org 

 

Keywords

homeschooling, coaching, education, trust, curiosity, play, meaning-making, Out of the Box

 

S4 Episode 3: Using Archetypes in Coaching with Joanna Lindenbaum

Claire is known for her opinion of much of the use of  tools and techniques in coaching. And she’s up to be challenged.  So when Joanna Lindenbaum from the Applied Depth Institute asked whether we wanted to talk about using resistance archetypes in coaching, we pulled up a chair at The Coaching Inn and said let’s talk!.

We talk about resistance in coaching, and what you notice. There’s mention of systemic practice and ritual. This is about noticing and naming - as an offer, in partnership. There’s a subtle difference when done well from typecasting or diagnosing. Brene Brown says that the opposite of pathologising is normalising. Listen to some of the ways we can normalise and be human.

Contact Joanna https://applieddepthinstitute.com/contact/

 

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Keywords

coaching, archetypes, impact, journey, ritual, Carl Jung, victim, judge, needy one, normalizing, growth, self-compassion